Survivors’ Stories
Case studies, experiences and stories of male victims
of domestic abuse and are now survivors
Many men think the domestic abuse or domestic violence is only happening to them and no other man has suffered in the same way.
This is not true, as the Government’s own statistics show – one in six men will be a victim in their lifetime and one in three of all victims of domestic abuse are men.
Our help-line receives calls from all men – from dustmen to doctors, from bakers to bankers, from teachers to tradesmen – right across the UK and across the full range of backgrounds, ethnicities and sexualities.
To give any men the confidence to come forward and to reassure them that they are not alone, some of the men we have helped in the past tell their story and how they escaped and rebuilt their lives (names have been changed to respect anonymity).
Men tell their stories to ManKind Initiative
- Sam
- Matthew
- Jamie
- Terry
- Graham
- Sebastian
- Ed (under 25 year old survivor)
- ADH
- Justin
- David
- Peter (Lawyer)
- Richard
- Darren
- Gary
- Owen (same sex relationship)
- Anthony
- Andy
Mothers tell their stories about their sons to ManKind Initiative
- Fiona’s Story
- Paul’s Lavelle’s mother, Barbara (told to The Sun)
An inspirational poem by Anne Bunn
Men tell their stories – Radio and Recordings
Please see our YouTube Channel
- My Wife My Abuser (Channel 5, March 2024)
- Paul and Steve talk about their brother/mate
- Alex Skeel (BBC)
- Oliver’s Story (BBC Radio 5)
- 20 Voices Documentary
- Dorset Police / Bournemouth University (Cut Your Strings): Tracking and Monitoring, and, Isolation
- BBC Radio 5 (Summer 2014) – story 1, story 2
- Gary’s Story
- Ken’s Story
- Matt’s Story
If you are survivor, can you speak out?
Would you be able to speak up and help other men. The media sometimes contact the charity wanting to speak to men who have suffered from domestic abuse in the past.
If you feel you would like to share your story and give confidence to help more men to come forward, please contact the Chairman (chairman@mankind.org.uk) who will contact you confidentially to talk about this. At no stage would the charity ever give your contact details to the media without your permission on every single occasion.
The following sets out the process and you will need to be out of the relationship for a very minimum of two years.
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